I'm at Helen's house today... notice, I said her house... not with her. I think it's a real bummer that she has to work today. Gerald's working close to Columbus, so we came last evening and plan to stay another night. I went with him last fall to check out the job... the house had been torn apart for months, about half of it being refinished. The doctor and his wife agreed to have Gerald go ahead with the trim. Well, everytime, he scheduled them in, the lady would call and say she just didn't get the painting done. Could they put it off? We were thinking she is quite queer not to get on the ball... why live in your torn up house for at least two years if you could do something about it. We concluded she was trying to manipulate her husband into hiring someone to paint. He had told her that since she chose to remodel so much, they would save money by her doing the painting. Whatever... I'm going to be shocked if the painting was even finished for today. Guess she'll get the hard job of painting around the trim then. Hope her husband doesn't give in. =-)
Changing the subject....I've been pondering... Am I trying to be a superwoman with all the best qualities of each of my friends combined into one person? I scold myself throughout the days... "Grace, you should be more orgnaized. You should always have whoopie pies for Gerald's lunch and, help, at last make sure there's snacks for unsuspected company so you don't embarrass Gerald. You should keep your windows cleaner. You should have the car washed for Sunday. You should send out more cards and stay in better contact with your old friends. Pity, Nicholas hardly has shirts to wear.. you can't even keep your child in clothes. And if you could sew faster, you'd have a new dress by now." I picture so and so baking up a storm that day... another friend perfectly cleaning her house... someone else speedily sewing... the list goes on... always trying to live up to each person's good points. Because I can never measure up to being the perfect organized, accomplished homemaker, I often feel in a frenzy around my house.
Saturday night, Gerald and I were going to have a date and I about screwed it because I was in this frame of mind. I had been gone all day Friday, cleaning Gerald's last basement job and I knew I would be gone all day today. I was feeling like a failure!
This morning, I started to link some of these thoughts with a sermon from church last Sunday.... "We need to find our identity in God. Instead, we often try to live up their people's expectations of us, wanting their affirmation. We live out of pain in our past and make up our set of ideals to try to avoid the same pain again. We need to ask God to give us new names... like he did for Abram, Sarai, and Jacob. Allow God to show us His purpose for us and live out of that calling. "
Is there a connection?